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Leykis 101 -nuff said ;)

2011-11-01T18:31:10.242-04:00

Leykis 101 -nuff said ;)

Yeah, this happened to me recently. Spent three mo...

2011-09-23T07:59:28.270-04:00

Yeah, this happened to me recently. Spent three months chatting to a "normal" girl - got plenty of face shots and a wierd "leaning over" photo. Plenty of photos from years ago - no mention of being anything other than "I have weight to lose" just a week before meeting. She was about 225lbs...

If the person also picks smile/eyes as best featur...

2010-09-03T17:54:53.427-04:00

If the person also picks smile/eyes as best feature, take it as a warning that overweightness should be expected.

I wish that I would have read this before making t...

2010-08-20T19:40:38.733-04:00

I wish that I would have read this before making the mistake of trusting a woman on a dating site to be honest with me. Her main picture is a head shot and the other ones are so small that you need to copy to your word document program to blow it up. (I did later after I had ques of weight deception between us) I even confronted her on it and she finally said she was 38 pounds overweight. I thought she was being honest, and I trusted her with how she was working on losing it. After failed attempts to have a video call (she told me how she was beautiful and could have any man she wanted. She did not want our relationship to be clouded by her looks at first) I finally, let the emotions run away and stepped into a online exclusive relationship with her. Finally, I was able to get her to have a video call with me... Wowza, the relationship with south from that moment... She was not only 38 pounds overweight... she was more like 100 pounds over weight. I ended the relationship and told her that the deception was not good. I felt trapped and lied too. She has stirred the dating site chat rooms up with her being a victim and has stirred up users by telling them that I am a player. After I backed out of relationship, she became very toxic like fatal attraction kind. I had to block her in every way possible to block her venomous communications as well.

All I can say is... Wow, I am new this this online dating stuff and did not see this one coming.... Yikes

I can only speak from personal experience...I have...

2009-01-22T21:01:00.000-05:00

I can only speak from personal experience...I have been using online dating sites now on and off for almost 5 years and whenever I see a girl that has only posted her head shot (and no body shots) I can only assume 1 of 2 things:

1. She is over weight and/or trying to hide it.
2. She has only taken one picture with a digital camera of herself in her entire lifetime, and this picture was only of her head, cropped in a weird angle.

My advice: Who cares what other people look like. Post all your pics and eventually you will find someone who like you for who you are !!

Tiffany, I read what you said and gave it some tho...

2009-01-11T16:00:00.000-05:00

Tiffany, I read what you said and gave it some thought. I think the article was well intentioned, but then the author put his opinions about appearance into the mix.

I got his point that misrepresetation is wrong. Guys do it as well, which others have pointed out (ie. old photos with hair that no longer exists, hiding weight, etc.). I don't see any problem with Alexander putting his own feelings out there. Even though I don't agree with them. I'm assuming Alex wrote it since he "stepped in". I'm curious what Stephen thinks about all this? Any comment?

While I agree with most of points articulated in t...

2009-01-10T18:13:00.000-05:00

While I agree with most of points articulated in the above comment by Alexander Stone, especially regarding attracting a mate who is right for you based on honesty, I do find fault. Although the author of the article clearly intended to discuss the traps of misrepresentation, the final comments nullified the author's objectivity. By stating that "You should be ok here" in reference to women who identify themselves as Lean/Slender, Athletic/Fit, Petite and indicating that men should "stay away" from those who claim to be modelesque, he exposed his personal prejudices towards different body types and personalities. The gentleman requesting advice appears to have higher consideration for women and greater tact than the author who uses words like vixen, often seen as derogatory, to describe a woman who has simply taken interest in a likable guy. I find it highly objectionable to state that women "have been getting away with this for far too long", when men have also been misrepresenting themselves for equal length. If you are going to maintain a blog that doles out dating advice, be responsible and prepared for the consequences when you are not kind. We all just want to find love and everyone is entitled to that, regardless of size.

Ok, I think I need to jump in here. This column w...

2009-01-09T16:35:00.000-05:00

Ok, I think I need to jump in here. This column was NOT meant as a knock on women that are overweight. Rather, it was about people who materially misrepresent themselves in their dating profiles. Someone who hides their body in their pictures for the purpose of trying to get a guy to go out with them that would not have otherwise done so if he knew what she really looked like is a FRAUD - just as much so as a guy who has outdated pictures which show him with a full head of hair, when he is fact bald. And while I would not have necessarily been so blunt, I am going to have to agree with Rick here. This article is about helping guys identify some of the warning signs so they don't get tricked. Why is it perfectly ok for a woman to complain at length that guys don't look like their pictures (as they do all the time when I am out with them), but when a guy expresses his frustration after being duped in dating someone much heavier than he was led to believe, he is considered 'shallow'? Women have been getting away with this sort of thing for far too long, and I am a bit troubled that I am the first person to actually call them out on it. Bottom line? You are who you are, and if someone is not attracted to you for whatever reason, there is nothing you can do about it. It is foolish to think that someone is going to be able to overlook the fact that they are not attracted to you and fall madly in love - especially if you lied to them from the get-go. So if you don't like your physical appearance, do something about it. But don't deceive people into believing that you are something you are not - that's NOT cool.

great system these women have. obviously no guy w...

2009-01-09T16:11:00.000-05:00

great system these women have. obviously no guy wants to date a fat chick, and no one knows that better than fat chicks themselves. which is why they go through great lengths to conceal their appearance. so they stand behind a bus in their pics, call themselves 'petite' and then have their friends call the guy shallow when he gets annoyed that he has just been tricked. nice!

Rock on Glenda! You tell them! I am sure these g...

2009-01-09T11:43:00.000-05:00

Rock on Glenda! You tell them! I am sure these guys are no charm to be talking about girls this way! Guys you really need to realize how shallow you are when you shouldn't be!

Thanks for finally coming out and admitting that p...

2009-01-07T10:53:00.000-05:00

Thanks for finally coming out and admitting that physical appearance is all you really care about. Way to be shallow! Guys, really, take a good look in the mirror. Most women take way better care of themselves than you do.

guys, you still need to use common sense. if a gi...

2009-01-02T06:07:00.000-05:00

guys, you still need to use common sense. if a girl is clearly hiding something in her pics, you have no right to complain if she shows up overweight.

Fat chicks need love too. But they gotta PAY.

2009-01-02T03:24:00.000-05:00

Fat chicks need love too. But they gotta PAY.

thanks for finally doing a column on this. too ma...

2009-01-02T03:22:00.000-05:00

thanks for finally doing a column on this. too many women are pulling this stuff.

Nice girl + great personality = OVERWEIGHT

2009-01-01T16:47:00.000-05:00

Nice girl + great personality = OVERWEIGHT