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Sunday, November 16, 2008

More of what NOT to say at a FIRST MEETING

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We've handled the topic of what you can an CANNOT talk about on a first meeting more than once. Here's one such article, but you can do a search for more using the search bar up at the top left of this page. Erin Flaherty of Shine has put together a top 10 of "what not to say on a first date." Her top five are:

1. "My ex is crazy."

2. "I would like to get married and have kids asap."

3. "Who are you voting for?"

4. "Can you pay the check? I'm broke."

5. "What's your favorite TV show?"




All are weak attempts at conversation or definite no-nos, but there are many other areas to stay clear of. For example:

1. "I have the biggest porn collection of all my friends."

2. "I use to get excited when Bugs would dress up as the girl rabbit." (Thanks Garth.)

3. "My wife/husband is such a pain in the ass." (Unless you are both planning an affair!)

4. "I knew I should have taken one more hit this morning."

5. "One time in band camp..."

6. "I have this terrible itching and redness."



Happy dating!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Friday, November 7, 2008

Online Dating - How to Turn Her Down

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I just got the WEIRDEST email on JDate.

A girl who cancelled on me less than an hour before we were supposed to meet last year just contacted me again as if we had never spoken.

Heh? What? Is this chick for real?

But it got me thinking -- Is there a simple (yet polite), cut-and-paste email someone can send out letting someone know he/she isn't interested (as opposed to just merely ignoring someone's message)?

So here you go - her loss is your gain:

Hey XXX,

Thank you for your email, but I am not interested in pursuing anything at this time. Best of luck in your search!

Alexander


Nothing good can EVER come from verbally attacking anyone in an email (including this bizatch). ALWAYS take the high road -- let her see what she missed out on.

Also feel free to use this email anytime you are contacted by someone you are not interested in. It is MUCH more polite than ignoring someone that took the time to write you. Don't leave them hanging... not cool.

Happy Dating!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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