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Tuesday, August 26, 2008

Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me a match!

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Yesterday, I was sitting in the doctor's office waiting to be called into the examination room. Or as I prefer to call it, "waiting room #2." Why do I bother getting to doctor's appointments on time? I always have to wait. I should start billing for my lost time. But I digress...

Back to the point. I was sitting and waiting and of course there are only some crappy magazines. I scanned through Vogue, breezed through an old Sports Illustrated I had already read, and then in desperation began to look over an AARP magazine.

For those of you that don't know, "AARP is a membership organization dedicated to enhancing the experience of aging through advocacy, information, and services." You have to be over 50 to join, and you get a magazine and some discounts at various merchants.

So, there I am reading this magazine and I stumble across an article by Ron Burley about online matchmakers. Basically someone subscribed to a service and was unhappy with the results. There was some good common sense advice in the article related to finding a matchmaker:

1. Ask for references and check them.

2. Be a considerate client.

3. Look your best. Like it or not, finding a partner is partly a sales job.

4. Take your time.

Great advice - especially in light of the fact that you will be spending THOUSANDS of dollars on their services. And as I can personally attest from dating one of NYCs well-known matchmakers, some of these people dont know what the hell they are doing!

In our opinion, you will have MUCH better results in your dating life (and at a much cheaper cost!) if you focus on getting your online dating profile and photos in order. There are countless articles on this website helping you figure out how to do that. Or if you'd like, drop us a line and we'll help you with whatever you are stuck with.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Monday, August 25, 2008

Beware of the Highlighted Profile!

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I was recently perusing JDate (for ‘educational purposes only’) and noticed that they have a new level of membership called a “Premium Plan.” For an extra 3-5 dollars a month (as if they are not expensive enough), you can have your profile appear highlighted when it shows up in someone’s search. I know Match.com offers a similar option, and my guess is that many other sites have something like this as well.

DON”T DO IT!

It screams WUSS.

Whew. That was easy ;)

Now for the rest of the story…

Woman that choose this option tend to be… well, let’s say, ‘more eager to meet a guy’ than someone with a normal membership.

You interpret that any way you’d like.

Good luck!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Saturday, August 23, 2008

Can Men and Women Be Friends?

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A recent commenter posted there thought that guys and girls can't be friends. Talk about timing. A recent "O, the Oprah Magazine" article by Dr. Michael Vincent Miller was posted on CNN.com. No, we don't read the Oprah Magazine!

The reality is that it is very diffuclt for a heterosexual man and woman to be platonic friends - there is usually something lurking in the background.

Generally, it falls into one of these categories:

1. They had a relationship in the past;
2. He likes her and she "doesn't know";
3. She likes him and he "doesn't know";
4. They both like each other and something will happen in the future;
5. One was dating the others friend and one person has feelings for the other.

There are probably other senarios that we've neglected, but you get the idea. There are some occasions were a guy and girl are friends and that's it, but it's rare. Very rare.

So, we leave the question to you, our readers, CAN MEN AND WOMEN TRULY BE FRIENDS? Or, is there always a romantic past or hookup (or hopes of a hookup) lingering in the future?


Chemistry.com



Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Thursday, August 14, 2008

Facebook Picture Tagging

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Thought we'd share an article from a recent New York Times Education section. Lisa Guernsey's Picture Your Name Here is a great look at Facebook and college life. It reminds us all that what we may think of as private may become public.
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There is a quote by a UPENN student, Jim Saksa, that rings true: “Our generation is the first to cope with the necessary assumption that our every action seen by another may in turn be seen by all of our peers."

It turns out Facebook may be a good tool for meeting people, keeping in touch, even finding a date. But it is a double edged sword! It can also make playing the field a challenge.

Is nothing private? Not anymore!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics