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Wednesday, October 31, 2007

10 Signs That Your Date is Not 'The One' [article]

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Here's Michelle Hill with her take on a recent article from msn.com...
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You will probably get to a point in your life when you are no longer looking for just random hook-ups and want a more serious relationship. For some of you, this will be a big change in mindset. It is likely that the qualities that you will look for in a serious significant other will be different from the qualities you found desirable in your flings.

Here’s an article that can help you sort through your emotions and focus on the rational side of things with your sweetie. Here are 10 signs that your date isn’t “The One”:

Michelle Hill
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Tuesday, October 30, 2007

Announcement - Live Approach Workshop

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Approach Dynamics will be conducting another Live Approach Workshop at the Saw Doctors concert on Saturday, March 15, 2008 at the Nokia Theatre in Times Square.

We will meet at 5:30 PM in midtown Manhattan for some pre-concert approaches, followed by the show at 7:45. Last year’s event was a blast and this year will be even better.

Web Price: $150/person ($250 for a group of 2 and $325 for a group of 3).

(NOTE: CONCERT TICKETS ARE NOT INCLUDED – They are your responsibility, and can be purchased through Ticketmaster by clicking here)

You can check out the Saw Doctors here:


Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Monday, October 22, 2007

Beware of the Chump Stump

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Not too long ago, Michelle Hill and I were out shopping when we came across a far-too-familiar site.

We’ve all seen them. Those cutesy, little seating areas in women’s clothing stores where all those poor saps congregate while their significant others spend all of their hard-earned cash.

You can spot these dudes a mile away. They all seem to have that depressed, defeated look on their faces as they sit there clutching onto purses, women’s shopping bags and other emasculating paraphernalia.

After careful thought and much deliberation, we at Approach Dynamics have finally given these seating arrangements the identity they deserve... THE CHUMP STUMP.

Now it is inevitable that at some point in your relationship, the two of you are going to go shopping together, which is fine. But if she is heading into one of those places that (self-respecting, heterosexual) men have no business being in, find something else to do.

Call a buddy on your cell phone. Walk into another store. If there is a men's section, find some stuff that YOU like.

But whatever you do, STAY OFF THE CHUMP STUMP.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Thursday, October 18, 2007

Dating: Being in 'Range'

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I got this idea from an episode of 21 Jump Street.

The Asian cop had been nervous as hell about his detective's interview during most of the episode. Finally, as he is driving to the place, he arrives at the parking lot and almost gets into an accident with another vehicle. Without thinking, he yells something nasty at the other driver - who, of course, turns out to be the guy that is supposed to interview him!

What can we learn from this? If you are heading to a date, don't do anything stupid once you are in 'range' of the place you are going.

Depending on the geography of the place you are going, 'range' can be anywhere from a few blocks away to a parking lot to the distance from the subway station to the bar. It's really a case by case analysis, but I think you just know where the boundaries are.

Here's what you do - once you are in 'range,' pretend that the person you are meeting can see and hear everything. Would you want her to see you scratching your balls, making plans with another woman for the next night or being rude to a hostess?

Basically, just be more aware of your surroundings once you are close by. I was once told a story of a guy who, while waiting in the parking lot, let one rip - just as the woman knocked on his window! Don't be THAT dude.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Wednesday, October 17, 2007

5 Secrets You Should Keep From Your Partner & Secrets You Better Tell Your Partner

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It starts out simply enough: A man and woman get together, they share some wine, they go back to her place, their relationship grows, they laugh and they fight, and they become-tada!-a couple. And then something happens: They're supposed to share everything with each other. Their fears. Their dreams. Their thoughts. Their bills. Their medicine cabinets. And that's when this simple little romance starts to get complicated. in most relationships, there's such a thing as too much sharing-and I believe that a little discretion at the right time in the right situation is not only a good thing, but also could actually improve relationships. As long as you're not breaking the relationship rules-like playing tonsil hockey while the goalie isn't watching-then a little mystery can be a good thing. Here, five secrets you should keep to yourself-because not saying something will actually speak volumes.

David Zinczenko provides 5 comments that you should just keep to yourself in this Yahoo article.

The follow up article contains secrets that shouldn't be secrets to your partner. Remember open honest communication is key. Although there are things that are better left unsaid (see article #1).


Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Monday, October 15, 2007

Dating Women With Money [article]

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I recently came across an interesting article in the New York Times about the problems successful women have while dating guys that make a lot less money than them. The article is entitled 'Putting Money On the Table', and you can check it out here.

As a reminder, this is not something you should be discussing with your significant other until WELL into the relationship. In fact, I never mention it at all. If she is continually trying to raise the issue, you may have a problem child on your hands.

From my experience, it really depends on the woman. In most situations where I have dated women that made more money than me, it has been a non-issue. And in the one situation where it actually WAS a problem, it turns out (as it usually will) that the girl had other issues as well - but at least I was lucky to find that out early.

In short, if you don't make it an issue, neither will she. Having just quit my job to return to school, I can tell you from personal experience that even earning less money than the Boston Mauler will not (in and of itself) prevent you from getting dates - provided, of course, that you have your shit together.

If, however, a woman is on your ass because you are underachieving or are too lazy to go out and get a job, then you might want to take that as a wake up call and get your life in order. No woman wants to date a bum - and they shouldn't have to.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Saturday, October 13, 2007

Money = Cheater

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The Rich and Unfaithful

A recent study finds that the more a person is worth financially, the greater the likelihood of them being unfaithful. The most frequent reason for their straying...VARIETY. Now didn't mom always tell us "variety is important". After all aren't we SUPPOSED to eat different things? Experience different cultures? Bottom line, aren't we SUPPOSED to try new things? I don't think she was including adultery in her pontifications. Someone should tell all those cheaters out there. Enjoy the article.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Friday, October 5, 2007

Speed Dating: A Woman's Perspective

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Here's Michelle Hill with her thoughts after a night of speed dating...

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I’m always up for trying something new, so when a friend of mine approached me recently about going to a speed dating party, I agreed. Fundamentally, I am a big believer in the principle behind speed dating. Meeting someone in person is the only way to know if there is any real chemistry, so why not be efficient and cram a bunch of those ‘first-meetings’ into one night, right?

It sounded like a good idea, but pretty much as soon as I got there, I was regretting my decision. What had I gotten myself into? Was it too late to run out the door? But wait, I had already paid. And at least I would get some good stories (and blog!) out of it. So, I pushed forward.

Some highlights:
- Staten Island guy: Now, I don’t necessary have something against Staten Island per se, but if you start making fun of Manhattan right off the bat (where we were and where I live) AND when you mention that you still live with your parents, I am probably less likely to be interested in you.
- Rude guy: This one wanted to go up to a bar to grab a drink, which was fine and was a nice idea as it was much quieter there. However, he was really rude to the bartender while we were up there, which was a HUGE red flag.
- Jury guy: This guy works at the courthouse, and his job is to talk to all the people who are trying to get out of jury duty. A weird job, I might say. Anyway, that’s all we talked about. He didn’t ask me ONE thing about myself and kept going on and on and on and on (given, only for our allotted four minutes), but you get the point. Trying to get to know EACH OTHER is the idea here.
- Unkempt guy: Don’t get me wrong, I actually like a little scruff on a man, but this guy looked like he might have slept on the street for the last week. Make an effort to look your best for these things. That goes for women too. I advised my friend who invited me not to wear a very low-cut shirt as I didn’t think any of the guys would be making eye contact with her all night.

Believe me, I could go on and on, but I did also meet some nice people. All in all, I found speed dating to be a worthwhile experience. It’s a good way to get out there and meet people you might not otherwise meet. Plus, as someone else said to me last night, it’s good practice, which good especially for those of you who don’t have much experience or don’t feel comfortable talking to a bunch of people you don’t know. At the very least, you’ll get some good stories out of it!

Michelle Hill
Michelle@ApproachDynamics.com
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Wednesday, October 3, 2007

Dating: How to Handle Inappropriate Quesions

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Hey guys,

What is a good response to a woman who asks you on a first date, “Do you own or rent?”


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Depending on how the rest of the night has been going, there are a bunch of ways you can deal with this. But in reality, anything other than “I own” or “I rent” would work.

It should go without saying that this kind of question is a MAJOR red flag, and you might want to reconsider whether this is someone you want to be spending any more time with. You probably have a status whore or a gold digger on your hands.

How would I handle it? I would probably end the date and throw her number away, but not before having some fun.

Here’s my response:

“I don’t think I understand your question (looking really confused)... what do you mean?” And then continue playing stupid with whatever she says in response. I can keep that conversation going for hours!

Of course, you can also go with some other approaches. Feel free to mix and match these if she continues to press the issue:

“How about you come back to my place and I’ll SHOW you...”

“Actually, I’m on welfare (looking really ashamed)... by the way, would you mind picking up the tab?”

“Did you see the Met game last night?”

“Do you spit or swallow?”

“I’d love to tell you, but look at the time... it was nice meeting you though.”


Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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