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Monday, December 31, 2007

Hope and Frustration With Online Dating [article]

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An article entitled, Online dating brings hope and frustration , by Natalie Armstrong, caught my eye today on the Yahoo news page. Recent research by Susan Frohlick, an anthropology professor at the University of Manitoba in Winnipeg, concluded the following for 30+ year old women who take part in online dating:

1. Women feel empowered by online dating;
2. Women want the man to make the first move;
3. Women expect men to pick up the check;
4. The biggest complaints the have include: "men who are looking for much younger women... men who misrepresent their looks, interests or marital status, or who show little interest in moving the relationship offline."

They actually had to do a study to figure this out?

As we at Approach Dynamics have said repeatedly:

1. Make your move and send her an email. Find the one or two things in her profile that are unique to her and use that as your opener. Do NOT send a wink/tease - unless, of course, you want to let her know you have no balls.
2. Never lie in your profile. There is nothing worse than starting off a relationship with a material misrepresentation.
3. Get to a first meeting ASAP. Do not waste your time sending emails back and forth. You only have a limited window with a woman online before she moves on to the next guy. Ask for her number on the second or third email, and then call her within a day or so to set up a first meeting.
4. Always pick up the tab on the first meeting. Chivalry is not completely dead. That being said, however, make sure she at least offers to pay when the check comes (which you will refuse, of course). If she doesn't, you may have a problem on your hands.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Saturday, December 29, 2007

Dating Shows -The Whitest Kids U'Know

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The Andy Kaufman Dating Show clip got me thinking about a sketch I had seen on Fuse sometime ago. It's a satirical view of every dating show out there. FYI, these guys will be seen uncut and uncensored on IFC (Independent Film Channel)starting February 10, 2008.



Thanks to YouTube and Fuse's The Whitest Kids U'Know

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Friday, December 28, 2007

Is Your Significant Other Married?

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If you haven't picked up a copy Neil Strauss' latest book, "The Rules of the Game," you can grab it here.
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Have you ever had the suspicion that the person you were dating was hiding something from you... like the fact that they are either engaged or married?

Short of hiring a PI to follow them around, here's a quick and easy way to run your own check.

Go to weddingchannel.com and run their name through the registry search.

Just remember, some engagements are broken - so don't go jumping to conclusions until you gather some more information. But this is certainly a good place to start.

Enjoy!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Wednesday, December 26, 2007

A Master List of Fake Jobs

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If you haven't picked up a copy Neil Strauss' latest book, "The Rules of the Game," you can grab it here.
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When you are out with your friends and a woman asks you that dreaded, “What do you do for a living” question, do you know what to say? Here is a list of fake jobs we have used with great success. Feel free to mix and match these if she then says “No, what do you REALLY do.”

1. Paperclip repairman;
2. Lettuce washer at Taco Bell;
3. Disposable cigarette lighter repairman;
4. Professional miniature golfer;
5. Professional miniature golf caddy;
6. Security guard for a gumball machine;
7. Asbestos removal (then cough a couple of times);
8. Quality control tester for a parachute company;
9. Ass model (thanks David D.);
10. Marshmallow salesman.

Also, try to come up with a bit of a follow-up story for the jobs you end up using. For example, when I use the miniature golfer, I like to say “I always wanted to make a difference in the community."

Watch her reaction. It will speak VOLUMES as to whether or not you should continue talking to her.

Good luck!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Monday, December 24, 2007

Andy Kaufman on the Dating Game

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There are a million great dating show videos out there, and we'll be putting up a few in the future. In the mean time, here's Andy Kaufman on the Dating Game (1978 as contestant Baji Kimran). Merry Christmas (even though Andy celebrated Hanukkah).




Thanks to PrecipiceProductions of YouTube for the video "Andy Kaufman on Dating Game, Santa Claus question"

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Sunday, December 23, 2007

STD - To tell or not to tell?

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Steve and Alex,
HELP! I was at the doctor recently because I had pain while urinating. At first I thought urinary tract infection, but after a Q-tip in my penis and a urine test, the doctor said I have chlamydia. Scared as hell at first, but luckily it was caught in time and after some antibiotics I'll be good to go. I've been told to tell my previous partners, but I've only had two in the last year and obviously it's one of them that gave it to me! Should I bother?




Butthead: Spermicidal lubricant, with a reservoir tip. Ribbed... for HER pleasure.
Beavis: YEAH! I gotta get some of those...
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********OUR RESPONSE********

YES.

And give us a head's-up next time you are going to use the words "Q-tip in my penis." I am still hunched over.

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Friday, December 21, 2007

A Simple Bar Trick: Newspaper Bottle Opener

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We've brought up the use of simple "magic tricks" in a few previous posts. Here is a great bar trick to try next time you are out. It's so simple and works well for initiating conversation or for keeping one going. It's really easy to do, but save yourself from any embarrassment and practice it first before you do it in public. Stay tuned for other cool tricks and "magic"...


Newspaper Bottle Opener:



Newspaper Bottle Opener - video powered by Metacafe



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Tuesday, December 18, 2007

Finances, Confidence & Success

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Let's face it, confidence is a tremendous component of successfully attracting women. Unfortunately, or fortunately for some, success breads confidence and inturn breeds greater success. If you are lacking success in approaching women, fear not. Don't wait any longer - visit our services page.

For most men, money is an area that leads to a drop in confidence. This need not be the case. Instead of putting off starting "that business", write a business plan. Having trouble saving money? Open an online savings account. Start small and add slowly, it adds up! If you are upto your eyeballs in debt, get out from underneath. It's possible, and may cost you a lot less than your minimum monthly payments that will keep you in debt FOREVER. Try Prosper.com - sign up today, don't wait. If you are looking for better returns on the money you have, try acting as a lender on Prosper. Join now from our link and get a $25 sign up bonus. Even if you only fund with the minimum $50, you have half your money back already! Sure there is some risk, but don't put all your eggs in one basket. FYI, Stephen just funded his first Prosper loan. Check out the site, do your due diligence, and maybe we'll see you on Prosper.

Here's a good example of what could happen if you try and turn around your financial situation the wrong way.



Thanks to Family Guy and YouTube!

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Sunday, December 16, 2007

Don't Be A Rabbit [video]

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I was at a local pub when this couple started going at it by the side of the bar. I hope you don't promote public displays of affection. What are your thoughts?
-Michael, San Diego, California

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One quick question Michael; do you like extra starch on your dry cleaning? In reality we agree there is a line one should be aware of in public. This also depends on the venue. You said you were at a pub. Was there no were more isolated for these two to go? Our opinion, there is always a way to get someone to a more private setting. PDA is not for most. One last question Michael, did they look like this??




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Friday, December 14, 2007

A Simple Bar Trick: Matches and Coin

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We've brought up the use of simple "magic tricks" in a few previous posts. Here is a great bar trick to try next time you are out. It's so simple and works well for initiating conversation or for keeping one going. It's really easy to do, but save yourself from any embarrassment and practice it first before you do it in public. Stay tuned for other cool tricks and "magic"...


Two Matches and a Coin:




Amazing Trick With Matches And A Coin - video powered by Metacafe



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Thursday, December 13, 2007

Dating vs. Ninja Warrior

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Sent as a comment: Guys, I'm in college and feel that finding a girlfriend is the hardest thing in the world? How can I get some action? - Jimmy from Binghamton, NY

Whoa there young grasshopper, or should I say bearcat? You must be confused. There is a BIG difference between having a girlfriend and getting some. Based upon the plethora of information you gave us (read: nothing), I'd say you're looking to get some and not a girlfriend. Either way, have you tried meeting people? Going out? Approaching women? Online meat markets, oops I mean online dating? Email us with specifics and we'll be glad to help you out.

In the meantime, we found something more difficult than finding a date. It's called Ninja Warrior and it's on G4. I never really heard of the channel or show until a friend turned me onto it. Pretty funny stuff. Here's a quick clip off of YouTube.



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Sunday, December 9, 2007

Gifts you may want to avoid giving this holiday season

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Ok, you're dating and thinking about giving a gift to that special woman. Here are a few gifts you may want to avoid.

1. A vacuum cleaner.
2. Met season tickets for a girl who hates sports. I know you're a Met fanatic, but the gift is for her.
3. An Xbox 360 or Playstation 3. Yeh, you already have Wii (and are tired of it), but does she really want it? Or do you?
4. Clothing size Medium or Large. She's a "small". Know your sizes.
5. Lingerie. You're thinking we haven't done that yet, but I want to. Or, she always wears cotton and I want leather with whips and chains. Her response... see ya.
6. A ring. You have no plans on marriage but thought it would be nice. Great way to send the wrong message and in the end hurt her.
7. A treadmill. Am I fat?
8. A gym membership. Am I really that fat?
9. Cash. Uh, could you take a moment and actually think of a gift? Even a stinking gift card would be better! Nothing says I love you, or at least like you, like an envelope with crumpled bills!
10. A Family Guy T-shirt You think it's a funny show, she thinks its crap.

These guys apparently gave bad gifts:

Thanks to the "what women won't want survey" by lxdirect.com!


Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Saturday, December 8, 2007

A Simple Bar Trick: A bill and coins on a bottle

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We've brought up the use of simple magic tricks in a previous post (the magic pen). So, here is a great bar trick to try next time you are out. It's so simple and works well for initiating conversation or for keeping one going. It's really easy to do, but save yourself from any embarressment and practice it first before you do it in public. Stay tunned for other cool tricks and "magic"...

Bill and coins on a bottle:



The One Finger Bar Trick - A Classic And Effectful Bar Trick - video powered by Metacafe


Remember to tell them the rules: you can't touch the bottle or the coins, you can't hold the bill, and you can't use any tools. Have fun!


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Friday, December 7, 2007

Field Report: The Laughing Girls

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Stephen & Alex,
You wrote an article about "OSO" a couple of days ago. Could you give an example of what to say? Thanks.
"Morpheus"



Ok "Morpheus," if that is your real name. The best way to answer that is with a field report.

We were recently at a lovely outdoor bar in Rockville Centre, New York. A pair of cuties were spotted sitting at a table talking to each other and laughing. Why was no one moving in? Was everyone intimidated? Good thing we weren't.

Implementation of O.S.O. (observation, story, inference)was in order!

I walk over to the empty chair next to "Nikki" and say hello. They look surprised that someone sat next to them at the table.
"Couldn't help notice you laughing. It's my turn to laugh. Tell me a funny story." (OBSERVATION)
"I don't know any funny stories," she replies.
"I'll tell you one then!" I proceed to make up some story about a kid falling off a skateboard. (STORY)
I finish my story, and know I have her hooked.
"Oh, I have a funny story for you." AMAZING, she's comfortable with me and is telling me a story, it was actually a funny story. While telling me the story Alex begins to move in on "Dina" while "Nikki" can't stop touching my hand and knee while talking. Time to move her away from her friend.
"Let me ask you something," I ask. (I'll come up with an OPINION later, but I don't think I'll need one.)
"Sure," she responds attentively.
"Let's go somewhere quieter," I propose.
She looks over at "Dina," as if to ask permission. Alex has her occupied. Great job wingman! We move to an area in the back and she makes the move on me.

O.S.O. Thanks again.


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