Online Dating - How to Handle the 'Wink'
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Sometimes also called a ‘tease’ or a ‘flirt,’ the wink is a quick, easy way to let someone know that you like their profile and want to connect with them. This article covers two aspects of the wink - when to send them (and NOT send them) and how to respond to a wink.
First off, winks are there so that WOMEN can contact MEN they are potentially interested in. Guys should NOT be using them to contact women - it shows laziness, a lack of creativity and that you have absolutely no balls.
I once sent a wink to a woman on Match.com, and she responded with a wink of her own. Lesson learned. Suck it up and send an email. To that effect, I would also suggest that women consider not sending them either. My usual reaction when I get a wink is to wonder how many other guys she sent one to - which brings me to my next point.
Responding to a wink is easy. Two sentences:
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XXX,
Thanks for the wink.
Looking forward to your email...
-A
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Trust me. If she is truly interested in you, she will write you back. My success rate when sending that response to a wink is well over 90%. I also like to just give my first initial in that response - let her write me first before she gets my name!
Good luck.
Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics
4 comments:
Oh, I like that. For some reason I always thought I needed to figure out something important to say about them or their profile. Maybe I should experiment.
Yeh - a great reply - I also was trying to pick something to say from their profile. I hope this rather mysterious response gets better results than a well thought out email!
Son of a.. I am hooked, and bookmarking this site now.
I have been out of the dating scene for 14 years, so this online thing is new to me, to say the least.
I got a wink from a women who I was very interested in, but not sure how to respond. Your blog post came up in the first google search, so I tried it.
Normally, I would send an email, and try and wax poetic or something on there profile, but your two line thing was so different I gave it a shot.
What do you know, within an hour, she has responded to me with an email, that started with 'Touche, I will start then" then into a couple of sentences, and closing with a 'why don't we meet over coffee face to face' I have barely said anything to her, and she is asking me out!!
I am hooked on your site now! Now I need to make sure I reply correctly to her!
A very good idea; basically, it conveys that you're an assertive, yet playful individual.
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