Online Dating - How to Handle the 'Wink'

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Sometimes also called a ‘tease’ or a ‘flirt,’ the wink is a quick, easy way to let someone know that you like their profile and want to connect with them. This article covers two aspects of the wink - when to send them (and NOT send them) and how to respond to a wink.

First off, winks are there so that WOMEN can contact MEN they are potentially interested in. Guys should NOT be using them to contact women - it shows laziness, a lack of creativity and that you have absolutely no balls.

I once sent a wink to a woman on Match.com, and she responded with a wink of her own. Lesson learned. Suck it up and send an email. To that effect, I would also suggest that women consider not sending them either. My usual reaction when I get a wink is to wonder how many other guys she sent one to - which brings me to my next point.

Responding to a wink is easy. Two sentences:
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XXX,

Thanks for the wink.

Looking forward to your email...

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Trust me. If she is truly interested in you, she will write you back. My success rate when sending that response to a wink is well over 90%. I also like to just give my first initial in that response - let her write me first before she gets my name!

Good luck.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Being a Smartass: ‘The Beer Trick’

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Editor's note - Special thanks to Nicole for teaching me this one

Here’s a great way to have some fun with someone you are out with. All you need is a flat surface, a full glass of beer (or any other kind of drink) and someone to try it on.

"Hey, I’m gonna show you this really cool trick!" Of course she is going to want to know what it is. If you REALLY want to push it, follow that up with something like, "You know what, never mind. I don’t think you can handle this one." Let her try to convince you she wants to see it.

"Ok. Take the index fingers on both of your hands and lay them flat on the table next to each other."

Once she does that, REST THE DRINK ON TOP OF HER FINGERS, essentially trapping her at the table (and preventing her from being able to pick up the glass!). Then say, "Hey I gotta go hit the men’s room. Be back in a few." Then get up as if you are leaving the table! Don’t actually go though - that’s not cool.

See how she reacts. Always good fun!

It’s also a good way to see how she deals with that kind of situation. I once had a girl get really pissed and throw the glass on the floor. Turned out she had some anger management issues, which she admitted to me afterwards. But notwithstanding the occasional weirdo, most women are good sports about it.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - Approach Dynamics / Online Dating Edge