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Saturday, August 23, 2008

Can Men and Women Be Friends?

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A recent commenter posted there thought that guys and girls can't be friends. Talk about timing. A recent "O, the Oprah Magazine" article by Dr. Michael Vincent Miller was posted on No, we don't read the Oprah Magazine!

The reality is that it is very diffuclt for a heterosexual man and woman to be platonic friends - there is usually something lurking in the background.

Generally, it falls into one of these categories:

1. They had a relationship in the past;
2. He likes her and she "doesn't know";
3. She likes him and he "doesn't know";
4. They both like each other and something will happen in the future;
5. One was dating the others friend and one person has feelings for the other.

There are probably other senarios that we've neglected, but you get the idea. There are some occasions were a guy and girl are friends and that's it, but it's rare. Very rare.

So, we leave the question to you, our readers, CAN MEN AND WOMEN TRULY BE FRIENDS? Or, is there always a romantic past or hookup (or hopes of a hookup) lingering in the future?

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics


Anonymous said...

No they can't.

Anonymous said...

I think guys and girls can definitely be just friends. I have a close guy friend who I grew up with and we have and always will be just friends. I think of him as a brother, share a bed with him sometimes, and we often talk to eachother about others in our lives. There has never been other feelings involved. He is an attractive guy, but I have no interest in being with him nor does he have any interest in me.

Anonymous said...

Tough call- I have a friend that is a girl.... we are just friends. But we did hook up once in college. But we are just friends now for 10 years. Neither wants anything from the other and are both actually married. I guess the romantic past is an issue in your question, but I think even w/ a romantic past, guys can be friends with girls.


Anonymous said...

I've managed to stay friends with every woman I've dated! But I have no female friends that I haven't dated. Maybe you're right??