8 First Date Tips for Women (or Men)

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While surfing through the cyber world, I happened upon this article:

8 First Date Tips for Women
First dates are all about getting to the second date. Here's how to make him fall all over himself for a second date with you
By Lauren Frances

I figured ok, lets see what the other side is thinking. Guess what? We are thinking the same thing! Here is a brief run-down of her tips:

Tip 1. Don't be negative. Remember, this should be fun.
Tip 2. Don't get tipsy. (Read: Fraternity days are gone- goodbye "Frank the Tank")
Tip 3. Don't talk about exes.
Tip 4. Be confident. Confidence breeds success.
Tip 5. Keep your issues to yourself. Your date is not your therapist!
Tip 6. Don't chase him or her.
Tip 7. Don't yap for the sake of yapping.
Tip 8. If things are not up to snuff, get out gracefully. (Read: don't be a jerk)

For the most part, this is pretty good advice. However, I do have an issue with #6, where the author states, 'Don't chase your date. Never deprive a man of the thrill of the chase.'

While as a guy, you should always be initiating, it is nice to get some sort of an indicator of interest every once in a while from the woman - whether it be a simple text message, phone call or e-mail. For a woman to "entice men, play with them, and release them" may send a false signal to the guy that she is not interested - which could result in a guy prematurely backing off.

Bottom line - if you are a woman interested in a guy, let him initiate -- but at the same time, don't act too aloof. You may scare him off. As a guy, if you're interested in a woman, take the lead and call her up for another date. If she is not interested, she will let you know.

But remember the truest point of all, as we have said many times before... DATING SHOULD BE FUN! If you are not having fun on your dates, you are doing something wrong.

Happy dating!



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