Online Dating: The Use of Qualifying Questions

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I am almost afraid to give this one away.

One thing that has propelled my success online (other than changing my job description) is the use of creative, informative questions that help you really get to know a woman.

Women are sick and tired of guys asking them the same retarded questions about where they are from, where they went to school, etc. Get creative!

Other than our presentation in Boston last summer, I have yet to see anyone address this stuff - until now. Here is a great article from Yahoo Personals entitled, Great questions for sparking online conversations.'

In the article, author Rad Dewey (with Jaime Rodriguez, Jr.) gives actual, word for word examples of questions you can use immediately with women online. These include the following:

1. If our moms were setting us up on a blind date, what three things would your mom tell mine about you?

2. What's your favorite beach in the world?

3. What's the next country you want to visit?

4. What one thing are you craving today?

5. What CDs are in your car or home stereo right now?

6. What are three of your guilty pleasures?

7. What was the last book you read? Did you enjoy it?

8. What is must-see TV for you?

9. If you met the right person, how many children would you have?

(Dewey, Rad. "Great questions for sparking online conversations." Yahoo Personals, 2007. See above for URL link).

Now ideally, you are going to want to come up with your own questions - but these are definitely a good start. I tested the first one out yesterday and got a 169 word response - to that question alone!

But do yourself a favor and stick to the author's suggestions. A lot of people chimed in at the bottom with questions they use, and most of them are either too situation-specific or just flat out suck.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics