How should I act on a first date?

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Guys, how should I act on a first date? Rob

Wow, you really thought about the question and gave us a lot to work with! We've covered a first meeting before, but we'll post it again.

Keep the conversation light and funny. No heavy topics, no complaints, no insults.

Topics to avoid at all costs - Physical ailments, rape or violence, Star Trek, anything self-deprecating, anything overtly sexual, your arrest record, Dungeons and Dragons, ex-girlfriends, that time that you got drunk and wet yourself, religion, politics, marriage, children.

However, feel free to tease her a little. Once she says something you disagree with, playfully give her that "You are messing up your chances with me" look. Another line I like to use is "and you were doing SO well..." Don't be arrogant or condescending.

Stare at her face, NOT at her chest.

Do not lean into her. Lean back and make her come towards you. Also, do not face her directly when talking. Have her turn her body towards you.

Always pay for the first meeting. While you should never take her up on her feeble "how much do I owe you" routine, DO take notice if she fails to offer. And for god sakes, DON’T USE A COUPON.

No more than ONE compliment on the first meeting. And try to be more creative than, "You’re so hot."

DO NOT make plans for another date while out on this one. Leave her wondering. The key word here is CHALLENGE.

Be sure you are the one who ends the date first. Try to end it on a high note - leave her wanting more!

BOTTOM LINE:
BE RESPECFTUL AND COURTEOUS. BE YOURSELF. HAVE FUN.

Happy dating.

Now had you asked "How should I treat a woman?" We may have responded with this funny video from YouTube.

The 9 Ways To Treat A Woman



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