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Monday, March 26, 2007

Field Report - "Gum and Beer"

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Just for the hell of it i figured I'd try something different this weekend. I went out with a couple of the guys and was chewing bubble gum while drinking my beer. It wasn't as bad as it may seem - and do I dare say that it actually tasted good?!?!

I was trying to get a reaction and it worked. Over the course of 2 hours, three girls came up to me and asked if i was chewing gum while drinking beer? My response, "yep - it gives me that good boy/bad boy image." I am not exactly sure what that meant, but it worked. Two of them laughed at the comment, and it lead to a decent conversation (the first girl sarcastically chuckled and walked away - I wasn't interested so I let her go). The two girls that I spent some time talking to also wanted a piece of gum by the way, which I was nice enough to give them.

I wasn't interested in the 2nd girl, but I got the 3rd one's digits. How? Once the conversation was going pretty well and I wanted to move on I just asked for her number - and she gave it to me with out hesitation - Just figured I'd share.

Lessons learned:
1. Even the most trivial things can lead to conversation (ex. a piece of gum!);
2. If you are interested, don't let them "get away" without asking for contact information. "Hey, what's your number?" It's THAT easy;
3. Remember, you are the one in "control." If you are uninterested, end it (but do so with class and tact - there is a line between being confident and being a total ass).

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