A Good Approach Example - 'Before Sunrise'

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I recently saw the movie ‘Before Sunrise.’ The premise of the movie is that an American backpacker (played by Ethan Hawke) strikes up a conversation with a cute French girl while on a train to Vienna, Austria. He then persuades her to get off the train with him in Vienna and join him for his last night in Europe. You can check it out on Netflix here.

At the beginning of the movie, the French girl changes her seat on the train due to a German couple arguing, and ends up sitting directly across the aisle from Ethan Hawke. The two of them make eye contact, and Hawke makes a comment to her about the argument. Before you know it, the two of them are grabbing a bite together in the snack car. It’s on!

Had Ethan Hawke wussed out and not said anything to the girl, the dynamic between the two characters would never have had an opportunity to develop. By merely opening his mouth and saying something, he eventually managed to convince this girl - a complete stranger - to get off the train and accompany him for his last night in town.

The point is that you cannot have any interactions with women (or anyone else for that matter) unless you can initiate a conversation. Who knows? If the conversation goes well, you can get her phone number or try and set up an instant date. "Hey, I’m going to grab some coffee. Come join me." Worst case? She is not interested, and you have another approach under your belt. Absolute worst case? The girl totally freaks out on you, and you now have a great story to tell your friends!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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