Hope and Frustration With Online Dating [article]

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An article entitled, Online dating brings hope and frustration , by Natalie Armstrong, caught my eye today on the Yahoo news page. Recent research by Susan Frohlick, an anthropology professor at the University of Manitoba in Winnipeg, concluded the following for 30+ year old women who take part in online dating:

1. Women feel empowered by online dating;
2. Women want the man to make the first move;
3. Women expect men to pick up the check;
4. The biggest complaints the have include: "men who are looking for much younger women... men who misrepresent their looks, interests or marital status, or who show little interest in moving the relationship offline."

They actually had to do a study to figure this out?

As we at Approach Dynamics have said repeatedly:

1. Make your move and send her an email. Find the one or two things in her profile that are unique to her and use that as your opener. Do NOT send a wink/tease - unless, of course, you want to let her know you have no balls.
2. Never lie in your profile. There is nothing worse than starting off a relationship with a material misrepresentation.
3. Get to a first meeting ASAP. Do not waste your time sending emails back and forth. You only have a limited window with a woman online before she moves on to the next guy. Ask for her number on the second or third email, and then call her within a day or so to set up a first meeting.
4. Always pick up the tab on the first meeting. Chivalry is not completely dead. That being said, however, make sure she at least offers to pay when the check comes (which you will refuse, of course). If she doesn't, you may have a problem on your hands.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics