Field Report: The Laughing Girls

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Stephen & Alex,
You wrote an article about "OSO" a couple of days ago. Could you give an example of what to say? Thanks.
"Morpheus"


Ok "Morpheus," if that is your real name. The best way to answer that is with a field report.

We were recently at a lovely outdoor bar in Rockville Centre, New York. A pair of cuties were spotted sitting at a table talking to each other and laughing. Why was no one moving in? Was everyone intimidated? Good thing we weren't.

Implementation of O.S.O. (observation, story, inference)was in order!

I walk over to the empty chair next to "Nikki" and say hello. They look surprised that someone sat next to them at the table.
"Couldn't help notice you laughing. It's my turn to laugh. Tell me a funny story." (OBSERVATION)
"I don't know any funny stories," she replies.
"I'll tell you one then!" I proceed to make up some story about a kid falling off a skateboard. (STORY)
I finish my story, and know I have her hooked.
"Oh, I have a funny story for you." AMAZING, she's comfortable with me and is telling me a story, it was actually a funny story. While telling me the story Alex begins to move in on "Dina" while "Nikki" can't stop touching my hand and knee while talking. Time to move her away from her friend.
"Let me ask you something," I ask. (I'll come up with an OPINION later, but I don't think I'll need one.)
"Sure," she responds attentively.
"Let's go somewhere quieter," I propose.
She looks over at "Dina," as if to ask permission. Alex has her occupied. Great job wingman! We move to an area in the back and she makes the move on me.

O.S.O. Thanks again.


Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - All rights reserved
Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

More about Approaching Women

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In an earlier post we wrote briefly about approaching women. We gave three important rules to remember before you get up to bat:
1- "It doesn't matter" what anyone thinks of you
2- Not every approach leads to anything
3- RELAX

That's all well and good, but you need to do a little bit more in order to improve upon your success.

One of the most important concepts to remember is what we call "PROACTIVE REACTION"

Big words for a simple concept - be prepared and then react!

By going into an approach with a clear plan you GREATLY improve upon your results and prevent the dreaded "over-thinking". Once you have enough practice and experience (and a coach that points out flaws or areas to improve upon), you'll see your success rate improve dramatically.

What do I talk about? How do I start up a conversation? During our seminars and workshops we provide a number of methods. One of the simple ones is our "OSO" approach - an observation, followed by a story, and then an opinion question.

The observation is what "gets you in". The story keeps her interested. And the opinion intrigues her. This simple OSO technique is great whether you are just getting started with "approaching" or even if you consider yourself to be a bit of an artist. In some cases, all you need is the observation to get you in and then things will flow smoothly.

Feel free to mix up the order of the opinion and observation if you like, or even start with the story. Some may preach opening with an opinion, but to us an observational opener is much more natural. Either way, happy "hunting"!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - All rights reserved
Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics