Money's 25 places with the highest percentage of singles

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Money Magazine just put out an article about the "best" places to live. Turns out, one of the subcatagories is "best places to be single." It's actually the 25 places that have the highest percentage of singles, and an over-30 scene. We all know the best place to be single is college! Regardless here's the link, and part of the list:

1. Hoboken, NJ
2. Cambridge, MA
3. Somerville, MA
4. Berkeley, CA
5. Boston, MA
6. Burlington, VT
7. Washington, DC
8. Boulder, CO
9. North Druid Hills, GA
10. Hermosa Beach, CA
11. Minneapolis, MN
12. Hempstead, NY
13. Atlanta, GA
14. Syracuse, NY
15. Albany, NY

Check out the link for the rest of the cities...

Now here's your part: If you live in any of these cities, tell us what you think. If you don't, give us your opinion of your area!


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"Speed Dating 101" YouTube Video

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We found this funny spoof of speed dating gone awry. While we've experienced and heard about similar situations, this takes whatever may go wrong to the next level.

About the worst thing I've experienced while speed dating was a pushy 35 year old who threatened to cross off my name unless I told her what I did for a living (I told her I was the world's tallest midget). I smiled and crossed out hers.

Then again, I did end up dating the organizer of the event (a prominent NYC matchmaker) afterwards - who by far was the WORST date I have ever had. One day when I am ready to start a holy war I'll get into more details. In the meantime, check out the video.

If you have any funny speed dating stories share them now. We all could use a laugh!



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Love advice from Ben Stein?

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As my father says, "Advice is like an asshole. Everyone has one and they usually stink." [Actually he was talking about stock tips at the time, but that's advice of sorts.] The key word is usually, as there are some people that have gained your respect so you should listen carefully to their advice. I'd like to think that if you're reading this, you've gained our trust. I know if Warren Buffett gave me some investment advice I'd listen.

Now Ben Stein is peddling advice about love. Yes, that Ben Stein (the lawyer, economist, former speech writer for Nixon and Ford, writer,actor...)the monotone guy from Ferris Bueller's Day Off. I may be being a little tongue in cheek but Ben Stein himself has said, "I've said to my wife repeatedly, I just want on my gravestone, 'He loved dogs' and 'Bueller, Bueller."

In today's New York Times, Lessons in Love, By Way of Economics, Ben Stein gives some advice about love. I think it's sound advice. Here are some key points:

1. You need to invest time, "caring, patience, and unselfishness," and you'll get this back in return.
Of course all of this assumes you are looking for love and the other person is as well! Just like an economist, making assumptions!

2. High quality people are what you should seek out.

3. Do your due diligence. Physically someone may be hot, but inside they may not!Get to know the person inside and out.

4. You shouldn't have to share your love. He or she should be yours and yours alone. Unless you're into that sort of thing!

5. When you find a winner, stick with it.

Happy reading!



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Speed Dating 2.0 - Woome.com

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Maybe you've heard of Web 2.0, the notion that the World Wide Web be used for greater creativity, sharing, and collaboration. The concept has led to the creation of blogs, wikis, and social networking sites (Speaking of which, have you checked out Moli? Hit the link at the top of this article and check it out!). As we've said in the past, social networking has been the rage for the last 5 years or so, taking a piece of the multi billion dollar online dating market, but there is something relatively new that we came across, woome.com.

Here's the basic idea- speed dating for the 21st century. You register for a free account, and then using your microphone or webcam and microphone, you join or create short chat sessions. Once you find someone you're interested in, and they are interested in you (woo'd), you pay $1 to connect to them. Woome says this is supposed to be a "live interactive experience where users play for fun, to hook up, or just meet new people around shared interests."

Upon initial inspection here's what we think:
1. The male to female ratio is great for straight women (Read: too many guys).
2. Narrowing down the selection geographically was very limited (we searched near NY twice in the past two days. Our best results were yesterday, 3 guys and possibly 1 girl ("her" avatar was a banana).

We won't pass final judgement just yet; we'll join and review the site shortly. If you're up for trying something new go for it and let us know what you think.

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Handling a Poor Choice for a Blind Date

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Hi guys. Quick question. What do I do if I arrive at a blind date and have no interest in the physical appearance of the girl I've been set up with? What's the best way to handle it? - M.T., Hoboken, NJ

This may seem complicated, but it need not be. First of all, from now on if looks are a major concern (aren't they to most everyone?), make sure you get a picture of the person before you set up a meeting. This will help to ensure that there are no hard feelings. Also, as we have said in the past, always make sure your first meeting is an informal one. Check out this article for planning a first meeting.

Always handle situations like this with class and tact. Don't hurt feelings, but don't lead anyone on. Be cordial and polite, being sure to spare feelings. How would you like it if you met someone, and were interested, and they said you were "not there type" or worse, fat, ugly, bald, etc. Try not to totally destroy what little self esteem this person may have. Stay for a reasonable amount of time, then thank the person for meeting. If asked by the blind date or your friend who set you up, simply say you didn't feel a connection. Below is a clip from "The Chair Model" episode of "The Office" that, although humorous, is exactly what you should not do.


Special thanks to JayDingo for finding this clip!

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Stephen David and Alexander Stone on Candace Bushnell

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We have received a number of emails about our appearance on Candace Bushnell's "Sex, Success and Sensibility" and we thank you for your support. For those of you that do not have Sirius and want a recap, here you go (by the way, our advice and opinions on these topics can be found by searching key terms in the search bar at the top and bottom of this column):

COMMUNICATION BREAKDOWNS – texting, calling, IMing, e-mailing . . . what are the “rules”, if any?

DATING DEAL BREAKERS – what makes a relationship keep moving forward and what ends it before it has even began?

THE RULES OF HOOKING UP – how soon do you start sleeping together, casual sex, etc...

TAKING RELATIONSHIPS TO NEXT LEVEL – when is it time to move in together, get married, etc...

ONLINE DATING – are rules different than if you met elsewhere? Do girls and guys have different expectations online?

During this segment, online dating expert Alexander Stone provided a poignant and powerful explanation of the "dos and don'ts" of online dating. He explained the different goals various individuals have when it comes to online dating, and relationships in general.

MARRIAGE 101 – what do you tolerate from your spouse’s interactions with the opposite sex, what’s considered cheating, etc...

During this segment, relationship guru Stephen David provided candid incite into the world of long term relationships and marriage. The concept of cheating was discussed from both a male and female point of view. Further, the use of the internet as a tool for extramarital affairs was discussed.

And as a reminder, Sirius will be replaying last week's broadcast all day Thursday, May 1, 2008. We have the last two 20 minute segments.

If you are not currently a subscriber, you can sign up for a free 3-day membership here.

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Video: 'I Have a Boyfriend'

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Don’t you just hate it when a woman you just met casually drops the “my boyfriend” line into the conversation? One of the MANY reasons I never buy women drinks…

Now is she honestly spoken for, or is she just trying to blow you off? No matter - you’re out either way.

I suppose you could always try a witty comeback (“that’s cause you haven’t met ME yet,” or “how about some quality backup?”), but in my opinion, you’re just wasting your time.

Anyhow, some dude from England has come up with an innovative way of handling things when a woman drops the boyfriend/fiancé line on you.

Enjoy!


She Has A Boyfriend - Watch more free videos

EDITORS NOTE – Use at your own risk. We assume no responsibility for what may happen to you as a result of trying out anything you see on this video.

But please feel free to write in and share your experiences anyhow…

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