Love advice from Ben Stein?

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As my father says, "Advice is like an asshole. Everyone has one and they usually stink." [Actually he was talking about stock tips at the time, but that's advice of sorts.] The key word is usually, as there are some people that have gained your respect so you should listen carefully to their advice. I'd like to think that if you're reading this, you've gained our trust. I know if Warren Buffett gave me some investment advice I'd listen.

Now Ben Stein is peddling advice about love. Yes, that Ben Stein (the lawyer, economist, former speech writer for Nixon and Ford, writer,actor...)the monotone guy from Ferris Bueller's Day Off. I may be being a little tongue in cheek but Ben Stein himself has said, "I've said to my wife repeatedly, I just want on my gravestone, 'He loved dogs' and 'Bueller, Bueller."

In today's New York Times, Lessons in Love, By Way of Economics, Ben Stein gives some advice about love. I think it's sound advice. Here are some key points:

1. You need to invest time, "caring, patience, and unselfishness," and you'll get this back in return.
Of course all of this assumes you are looking for love and the other person is as well! Just like an economist, making assumptions!

2. High quality people are what you should seek out.

3. Do your due diligence. Physically someone may be hot, but inside they may not!Get to know the person inside and out.

4. You shouldn't have to share your love. He or she should be yours and yours alone. Unless you're into that sort of thing!

5. When you find a winner, stick with it.

Happy reading!



Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2008 - All rights reserved
Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Fight Over a Woman? Don't Be THAT Giraffe!

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We've seen it before... Two chodes trying to claim their dominance and win "fair maiden's" heart. Word of advice, don't act like a giraffe.
They seem so docile, but throw a woman in the mix.... it has bad written all over it. More lessons from the animal kingdom later.




Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Yahoo: 5 Steps to Disaster-Proof Your Dating

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"If you want a dating life that's free from disaster,
you need to invest in a little insurance. As hurricane
victims know, it does no good to buy insurance after
the storm has wreaked its damage. Here's how to get
your own dating insurance package together:"

5 Steps to Disaster-Proof Your Dating, by Kathryn Lord
is a simplified look at improving your dating success.
One prescribed step is basically to be prepared to reject
and be rejected. The best thing you can do in order
to improve the chances of NOT being over-looked is to
have a well written and eye catching profile, and that's
where we come in!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - All rights reserved
Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

E-Harmony: Time's Worst Site of 2007 [article/video]

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In a recent article by Time.com, eHarmony has been listed as one of the worst sites of 2007.

It is bad enough that some guys and girls are already disappointed by their dating prospects, but now a site exists that rejects people as "unmatchable". This group of 'rejects' includes homosexuals and people with depression. Check out this video from one of MY favorite sites, Chemistry.com:


And as for those that DO manage to make the cut after filling out that 436 question survey, eHarmony's advice to those that have been given terrible matches (this site does not allow you to search - rather, they send YOU a list of 'matches') is to 'stick it out.' Of course, the longer you 'stick it out', the more you pay (hey Beavis... he said 'stick it out'... hehehehe).

Stick to a site which allows you to craft an OUTSTANDING profile or let us help you out.

Also listed on Time.com's five worst websites:
2. Evite.com: I don't mind this one. In fact, I kinda like it. As for the extensive advertising, let's remember that this site is FREE and very USEFUL.
3. Meez.com: Don't know this one. Perhaps that's just my age showing ;)
4. Myspace: Put aside for a moment what I said about advertising on Evite, this site has gone WAY over the edge. And to make matters worse, we now have a constant barrage of spammers and 'Russian strippers' asking to be our friends. Stick to Facebook.
5. Secondlife.com: Another site I know nothing about, but based on Time's write-up, it looks kinda lame. If you have a different opinion, I'd love to hear it.

We have our vote in for www.onlinedatingedge.com as best site of the year for 2007/2008. Help us out will you... favorite us on technorati.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Dating: When Should I Get Engaged, and How? [video]

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QUESTION FROM A READER:

Hey guys. I can't believe I am actually writing in to a website with a question. I needed an "outside" opinion and you 2 are about as outside as it gets. Am I ready for marriage and if I am how should I propose?
Tom D., Miami, FL

********MY COMMENTS********
Heh? What?

You really gave us a lot to go on, dude. How would we know if you're ready? Only YOU know if you are ready or not. Some say that since you are asking, you are not ready. I don't necessarily agree with that since you brought up engagement scenarios. In my humble and nonprofessional opinion, that makes it seem like the answer is, "yes, I'm ready, but nervous."

Ask yourself a few questions:

1. Do you "know" and are happy with the person you are in a relationship with?
2. Are you emotionally secure with your past? In other words, have you "moved on" from past relationships, both good and bad?
3. Do you know how to compromise and are you READY to compromise? Marriage is about give and take.
4. Are you prepared to be honest and share your life with this person? Further, have you been totally honest to this point? We take marriage seriously and hope you will as well.
5. When you look at her, can you envision spending the rest of your life with her?
6. Do the two of you have a common plan for the future - i.e. children, travel, priorities?
7. Are you yourself stable, unrelated to her (financially, emotionally, career-wise, etc.)?

As for engagement scenarios, the sky's the limit. But make sure you do something that is special, memorable, and meaningful to HER. Let's face it, it should be one of the happiest days of your life, but for MOST it means more to the woman (stereotypical?).

Just promise us one thing. DON'T be a tool and pop the question at a crowded venue such as a sports arena (unless there is some sort of sentimental reason for it, i.e. you met there). Not only is this scenario embarrassing and cheesy, but it is also selfish on your part. Remember, this moment is all about HER.

And for those of you who think that popping the question in a public place will guarantee you a 'yes', think again. Check out THIS jackass...



Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics