Hope and Frustration With Online Dating [article]

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An article entitled, Online dating brings hope and frustration , by Natalie Armstrong, caught my eye today on the Yahoo news page. Recent research by Susan Frohlick, an anthropology professor at the University of Manitoba in Winnipeg, concluded the following for 30+ year old women who take part in online dating:

1. Women feel empowered by online dating;
2. Women want the man to make the first move;
3. Women expect men to pick up the check;
4. The biggest complaints the have include: "men who are looking for much younger women... men who misrepresent their looks, interests or marital status, or who show little interest in moving the relationship offline."

They actually had to do a study to figure this out?

As we at Approach Dynamics have said repeatedly:

1. Make your move and send her an email. Find the one or two things in her profile that are unique to her and use that as your opener. Do NOT send a wink/tease - unless, of course, you want to let her know you have no balls.
2. Never lie in your profile. There is nothing worse than starting off a relationship with a material misrepresentation.
3. Get to a first meeting ASAP. Do not waste your time sending emails back and forth. You only have a limited window with a woman online before she moves on to the next guy. Ask for her number on the second or third email, and then call her within a day or so to set up a first meeting.
4. Always pick up the tab on the first meeting. Chivalry is not completely dead. That being said, however, make sure she at least offers to pay when the check comes (which you will refuse, of course). If she doesn't, you may have a problem on your hands.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Dating Shows -The Whitest Kids U'Know

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The Andy Kaufman Dating Show clip got me thinking about a sketch I had seen on Fuse sometime ago. It's a satirical view of every dating show out there. FYI, these guys will be seen uncut and uncensored on IFC (Independent Film Channel)starting February 10, 2008.



Thanks to YouTube and Fuse's The Whitest Kids U'Know

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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Is Your Significant Other Married?

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If you haven't picked up a copy Neil Strauss' latest book, "The Rules of the Game," you can grab it here.
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Have you ever had the suspicion that the person you were dating was hiding something from you... like the fact that they are either engaged or married?

Short of hiring a PI to follow them around, here's a quick and easy way to run your own check.

Go to weddingchannel.com and run their name through the registry search.

Just remember, some engagements are broken - so don't go jumping to conclusions until you gather some more information. But this is certainly a good place to start.

Enjoy!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

A Master List of Fake Jobs

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If you haven't picked up a copy Neil Strauss' latest book, "The Rules of the Game," you can grab it here.
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When you are out with your friends and a woman asks you that dreaded, “What do you do for a living” question, do you know what to say? Here is a list of fake jobs we have used with great success. Feel free to mix and match these if she then says “No, what do you REALLY do.”

1. Paperclip repairman;
2. Lettuce washer at Taco Bell;
3. Disposable cigarette lighter repairman;
4. Professional miniature golfer;
5. Professional miniature golf caddy;
6. Security guard for a gumball machine;
7. Asbestos removal (then cough a couple of times);
8. Quality control tester for a parachute company;
9. Ass model (thanks David D.);
10. Marshmallow salesman.

Also, try to come up with a bit of a follow-up story for the jobs you end up using. For example, when I use the miniature golfer, I like to say “I always wanted to make a difference in the community."

Watch her reaction. It will speak VOLUMES as to whether or not you should continue talking to her.

Good luck!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Andy Kaufman on the Dating Game

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There are a million great dating show videos out there, and we'll be putting up a few in the future. In the mean time, here's Andy Kaufman on the Dating Game (1978 as contestant Baji Kimran). Merry Christmas (even though Andy celebrated Hanukkah).




Thanks to PrecipiceProductions of YouTube for the video "Andy Kaufman on Dating Game, Santa Claus question"

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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

STD - To tell or not to tell?

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Steve and Alex,
HELP! I was at the doctor recently because I had pain while urinating. At first I thought urinary tract infection, but after a Q-tip in my penis and a urine test, the doctor said I have chlamydia. Scared as hell at first, but luckily it was caught in time and after some antibiotics I'll be good to go. I've been told to tell my previous partners, but I've only had two in the last year and obviously it's one of them that gave it to me! Should I bother?



Butthead: Spermicidal lubricant, with a reservoir tip. Ribbed... for HER pleasure.
Beavis: YEAH! I gotta get some of those...
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YES.

And give us a head's-up next time you are going to use the words "Q-tip in my penis." I am still hunched over.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

A Simple Bar Trick: Newspaper Bottle Opener

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We've brought up the use of simple "magic tricks" in a few previous posts. Here is a great bar trick to try next time you are out. It's so simple and works well for initiating conversation or for keeping one going. It's really easy to do, but save yourself from any embarrassment and practice it first before you do it in public. Stay tuned for other cool tricks and "magic"...


Newspaper Bottle Opener:



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Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics