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Tuesday, May 22, 2007

Online Dating: Deal or No Deal?

One of the unfortunate side effects of online dating is that with so many people to choose from, a lot of us have developed the mentality that there is always something (or someone) better just around the corner. This inevitably leads to people making quick (and often incorrect) decisions about a person they just met, and not giving things enough of a chance to develop. After all, how can you when you work ten hour days and still have 3 more dates lined up for the week? I am just as guilty as the next guy.

But something I saw on tv last night made me realize that sometimes we need to take a step backwards and look at what we have in front of us. For the most part, I have managed to keep myself away from that highly addictive drug known as reality television. However, NBC’s Deal or No Deal somehow managed to make it past my force field.

Last night’s contestant was Wesley Autrey - he’s the guy who jumped onto the subway tracks in New York to save someone that had fallen off the platform after suffering a seizure. As you may recall, Autrey was able to pin the other guy’s body down in a drainage trench between the tracks, while two subway cars passed directly over them. Miraculously, both of them escaped unharmed.

The basic premise of the show is this - there are 26 cases, each with a different dollar amount ranging from 1 cent to 1 million dollars. The contestant then picks a suitcase and begins opening the other ones to eliminate those amounts from the board. Various offers are then made to the contestant based on the dollar amounts that remain on the board. Obviously, the higher the dollar amounts left on the board, the better the offers.

In the end, there were three cases left. The million dollar case, and 2 worthless ones. The offer was $305,000.00 - an OBSCENE amount of money for someone only making 1200 bucks a week.

Now this one is a no-brainer. You take the money - ESPECIALLY since there is no safety net if something bad happens. Unfortunately, greed got the best of him and he turned down the offer. Sure enough, the next case opened had the million and he wound up going home with 25 bucks. Hero or not (and regardless of the eventual outcome), it was a foolish move to turn down that offer.

So what can we learn from this? If you meet someone that you think you like, give them a chance and see what happens rather than dismissing them prematurely. Do not get caught up in the ‘what if’ game and pass up a potentially good opportunity because of the illusion of some million dollar pipe dream. As the old saying goes, "a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush." Only you could end up with something else in your hand...

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

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