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Wednesday, May 16, 2007

Your Online Dating Profile: Avoid Cliches

There is no faster way to have your online dating profile laughed at and ignored then by using meaningless and/or overused phrases. I think this is the one area where both men and women are EQUALLY guilty. But as online dating continues to evolve, not only is the USE of these phrases subject to ridicule, making fun of them in your profile has also become a cliche of its own. Unless of course you do it creatively. Case in point:

It has been brought to my attention that there are a number of women using online dating to lure poor, unsuspecting men with false claims of enjoying things like beer, sports and Comedy Central. This is apparently part of a more elaborate scheme by these women to further their romantic agendas of sunsets, candle-lit dinners and long walks on the beach.

A woman I recently met online brought this all to light. What initially attracted me to her profile was her claim that she enjoyed going out as much as she liked staying in. She also told me that not only is she as comfortable in jeans and a t-shirt as she is in a cocktail dress and heels, but she is also tired of the bar scene. A rare bird indeed!

However, what I discovered was quite troubling. Not only was she unable to name even three members of the Mets, but she also complained that her heels were making her feet hurt. After much arm twisting, she FINALLY admitted that she did not come up with any of those things on her own as I had thought, but had actually taken them from another woman’s profile! Blasphemy!

Needless to say, I am astounded. After all, us guys really DO work hard and play hard, have the best friends in the world and are genuinely looking for a ‘partner-n-crime’. And if you don't believe us, just look at our profiles - it's in just about EVERY one of them!

So ladies, be forewarned. We are on to you ;)
So what to do? Again, you have to think OUTSIDE the box. Dont just SAY you are close with your friends and family (who isn't?), SHOW it. Talk about how you set up the party for your grandmother's 80th birthday, or subtly mention that speech you gave at your friend's wedding.

Once you have that down, you NOW have license to start busting on people with cliche-ridden profiles! As always, I'll get you started:

"Hey, I really like what you had to say about enjoying both going out and staying in. Me too! We must be soulmates..."

"Thought you might want to know - there is another woman on [insert dating site here] using your line about 'looking for a normal guy.' I realize that probably took you a long time to come up with, and I don't think it's right that someone else should just swoop in and steal it from you. I think you should report her for copyright infringement. And by the way, what exactly do you consider to be 'normal?'"

If she is a good sport about it, she will acknowledge that she has the same profile as everyone else, but that "it's so hard to write something about yourself... blah blah blah."

If she gets annoyed or offended, dont worry about that either. Most people with nothing of substance in their profiles don't have much of a personality anyway. It's not YOUR problem - it's HERS.

Good luck!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - Approach Dynamics / Online Dating Edge

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