Dating vs. Ninja Warrior

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Sent as a comment: Guys, I'm in college and feel that finding a girlfriend is the hardest thing in the world? How can I get some action? - Jimmy from Binghamton, NY

Whoa there young grasshopper, or should I say bearcat? You must be confused. There is a BIG difference between having a girlfriend and getting some. Based upon the plethora of information you gave us (read: nothing), I'd say you're looking to get some and not a girlfriend. Either way, have you tried meeting people? Going out? Approaching women? Online meat markets, oops I mean online dating? Email us with specifics and we'll be glad to help you out.

In the meantime, we found something more difficult than finding a date. It's called Ninja Warrior and it's on G4. I never really heard of the channel or show until a friend turned me onto it. Pretty funny stuff. Here's a quick clip off of YouTube.



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Announcement - Live Approach Workshop

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Approach Dynamics will be conducting another Live Approach Workshop at the Saw Doctors concert on Saturday, March 15, 2008 at the Nokia Theatre in Times Square.

We will meet at 5:30 PM in midtown Manhattan for some pre-concert approaches, followed by the show at 7:45. Last year’s event was a blast and this year will be even better.

Web Price: $150/person ($250 for a group of 2 and $325 for a group of 3).

(NOTE: CONCERT TICKETS ARE NOT INCLUDED – They are your responsibility, and can be purchased through Ticketmaster by clicking here)

You can check out the Saw Doctors here:


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Speed Dating: A Woman's Perspective

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Here's Michelle Hill with her thoughts after a night of speed dating...

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I’m always up for trying something new, so when a friend of mine approached me recently about going to a speed dating party, I agreed. Fundamentally, I am a big believer in the principle behind speed dating. Meeting someone in person is the only way to know if there is any real chemistry, so why not be efficient and cram a bunch of those ‘first-meetings’ into one night, right?

It sounded like a good idea, but pretty much as soon as I got there, I was regretting my decision. What had I gotten myself into? Was it too late to run out the door? But wait, I had already paid. And at least I would get some good stories (and blog!) out of it. So, I pushed forward.

Some highlights:
- Staten Island guy: Now, I don’t necessary have something against Staten Island per se, but if you start making fun of Manhattan right off the bat (where we were and where I live) AND when you mention that you still live with your parents, I am probably less likely to be interested in you.
- Rude guy: This one wanted to go up to a bar to grab a drink, which was fine and was a nice idea as it was much quieter there. However, he was really rude to the bartender while we were up there, which was a HUGE red flag.
- Jury guy: This guy works at the courthouse, and his job is to talk to all the people who are trying to get out of jury duty. A weird job, I might say. Anyway, that’s all we talked about. He didn’t ask me ONE thing about myself and kept going on and on and on and on (given, only for our allotted four minutes), but you get the point. Trying to get to know EACH OTHER is the idea here.
- Unkempt guy: Don’t get me wrong, I actually like a little scruff on a man, but this guy looked like he might have slept on the street for the last week. Make an effort to look your best for these things. That goes for women too. I advised my friend who invited me not to wear a very low-cut shirt as I didn’t think any of the guys would be making eye contact with her all night.

Believe me, I could go on and on, but I did also meet some nice people. All in all, I found speed dating to be a worthwhile experience. It’s a good way to get out there and meet people you might not otherwise meet. Plus, as someone else said to me last night, it’s good practice, which good especially for those of you who don’t have much experience or don’t feel comfortable talking to a bunch of people you don’t know. At the very least, you’ll get some good stories out of it!

Michelle Hill
Michelle@ApproachDynamics.com
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Dating: When Should I Get Engaged, and How? [video]

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QUESTION FROM A READER:

Hey guys. I can't believe I am actually writing in to a website with a question. I needed an "outside" opinion and you 2 are about as outside as it gets. Am I ready for marriage and if I am how should I propose?
Tom D., Miami, FL

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Heh? What?

You really gave us a lot to go on, dude. How would we know if you're ready? Only YOU know if you are ready or not. Some say that since you are asking, you are not ready. I don't necessarily agree with that since you brought up engagement scenarios. In my humble and nonprofessional opinion, that makes it seem like the answer is, "yes, I'm ready, but nervous."

Ask yourself a few questions:

1. Do you "know" and are happy with the person you are in a relationship with?
2. Are you emotionally secure with your past? In other words, have you "moved on" from past relationships, both good and bad?
3. Do you know how to compromise and are you READY to compromise? Marriage is about give and take.
4. Are you prepared to be honest and share your life with this person? Further, have you been totally honest to this point? We take marriage seriously and hope you will as well.
5. When you look at her, can you envision spending the rest of your life with her?
6. Do the two of you have a common plan for the future - i.e. children, travel, priorities?
7. Are you yourself stable, unrelated to her (financially, emotionally, career-wise, etc.)?

As for engagement scenarios, the sky's the limit. But make sure you do something that is special, memorable, and meaningful to HER. Let's face it, it should be one of the happiest days of your life, but for MOST it means more to the woman (stereotypical?).

Just promise us one thing. DON'T be a tool and pop the question at a crowded venue such as a sports arena (unless there is some sort of sentimental reason for it, i.e. you met there). Not only is this scenario embarrassing and cheesy, but it is also selfish on your part. Remember, this moment is all about HER.

And for those of you who think that popping the question in a public place will guarantee you a 'yes', think again. Check out THIS jackass...



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Live Earth - The Forgotten Post

By popular request, here is the synopsis of a few of our approaches from the Live Earth Concert at Giants Stadium. As a reminder, Approach Dynamics will be conducting another Live Approach Training at the Saw Doctors concert on Saturday, August 11, 2007 at Irving Plaza in Manhattan. Seats are filling up FAST, so if you want in, click here and sign up.

1. Upon moving towards our seats, I noticed a row of 4 girls sitting by themselves. Showtime! I moved in with "The Jackal" and "Iggy" and quickly things were progressing. They all happened to graduate a year ago from "The Dalton School" (Reverse Gold Digger?) and are currently attending Indiana University. Conversation flowed well, and after a little banter, we went on listening to the music and talking amongst ourselves. They quickly clamored for more attention. Props to "The Jackal" and "Iggy" for their good work!

2. About 3 hours after the debacle with the "rude girl", Jackal made another attempt. He moved in on a different girl in the set, who looked like someone had shot her dog.
"Come on, lets have some fun!" he said jovially.
NO RESPONSE...
(Playing dumb and having fun) "Are you ok?"
"She's fine," said the blocker (biatch 1)
"I'm ok," the girl promptly responded.
Another blocker, a bony, weird looking guy in a V neck t-shirt said in a hostile voice picking a fight, "hey where's your ticket, dick?"
The Jackal: "In my pocket, I'm sure you'd like to get it."

Then Jackal turned to the target with a smile and said, "sorry everyone here is so angry... try and have some fun."
As he returned, Jackal shook his head and said, "Wow, what a sad bunch."

No truer words had been spoken!

3. After our foray into the college scene, I proceeded to move in on a more mature woman. A lovely 30 year old lawyer from NJ. She approached me about how much she loved my kissing penguins shirt. PEACOCKING at an environmental venue! :) She started getting all cerebral with me about carbon emissions, global warming, and electricity generation. Good thing I have multiple degrees in related fields! She was smitten. She asked if she could give me her email so that maybe we could get together.

4. Upon leaving the show, I noticed a girl on top of a 3 to 4 foot high divider, which was separating buses that were heading back to Manhattan from a huge crowd of concertgoers. She was looking around and yelling out to people she went to the show with.

"What's going on at the front of the line 'Girl On Top'?" I asked her.

She smiled while loving the attention and we proceeded to have some friendly double-entendre laden conversation.

The Jackal then climbed up onto the divider with the 'Girl on Top' for a little bit, while I ran interference with her other girlfriends down below. As we got on the buses, Jackal asked for and received the golden digits. Once again, well done my young apprentice!

Lessons learned here? It's all about having fun. Don't worry about the outcomes of any particular interaction, "IT JUST DOESN'T MATTER". Oh yeah, and fruity-looking guys in v-neck t-shirts like hanging out with bizatches.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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Being a Smartass: Busting on Cashiers

One of the best ways to practice teasing women is by talking to service staff (waitresses, sales clerks, cashiers, etc.). Most of them are very friendly and sociable, and best of all, they HAVE TO be nice to you! Just don't be obnoxious about it - make sure you smile and that you have a playful attitude during the interaction. Otherwise it's not cool.

Today were are going to talk about some ways to have fun with cashiers. Many of these women go through day after day of mindless chit chat with countless, nameless faces. Give them the gift of breaking them out of their reality for a few seconds, and make them smile. When done right, you can TOTALLY make their day.

Here are some of my favorite things to do with cashiers. Of course, much of this depends on where you are and what the situation is. Remember, this is supposed to be fun for EVERYONE involved. There is a fine line between being playful and being a dick. Don't cross it.

1. This one works best in a commercial retail setting (Target, Wegmans, Toys R Us, etc.). After she rings up the total, try to bargain with her! Tell her that since you are her favorite customer, she can give you a special discount. Then promise that you wont tell anyone, it will be your little secret. If she gives you a hard time, offer to cut her in on the savings. Tell her she can use that money to take you out for a proper date. If she still resists, break up with her, right in front of everyone!

2. This one is good in places with older cash registers (liquor stores, mom and pop groceries, pizza places). If the total comes to, let's say, $4.64, give her $7.38 (with a straight face)! Act like it is the most normal thing in the world. Watch her reaction. Always good fun! Remember to always give her less change than the total.

3. Here's one for supermarkets or drug stores. Put together a combination of really weird shit and see how she handles it. I was once in a drug store with a friend of mine at like 3am and there was a cute girl behind the counter. We decided we were going to have some fun...

Between the two of us, we had a 12 pack of beer, Preparation H, a box of condoms and some shampoo! We also assumed the roles of 2 guys pretending to be smooth with the ladies, even though we were acting like a couple of tools. Unfortunately, this girl had no reaction whatsoever. But at least WE got a good laugh out of it.

The key here is to have fun with this, and to try and get the cashier in on it as well. If you can come from a frame of just being out enjoying yourself and trying to spread some of that around, you’ll be fine. Just remember that if you encounter someone that REALLY doesn’t want to play along, PLEASE be polite about it - not everyone has this kind of sense of humor (tragic, I know!).

Good luck!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

Being a Smartass: Some Great Lines

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Following up on our previous posts 'Smartass Answers to Dumbass Questions' and 'The Beer Trick', here is a 2-part video by Will of www.youaresoinmyway.com. Will is a gentleman I have had the pleasure of meeting on several occasions, and one of the few people I can credit with being at my level in the smartass department. So take out a pen and paper and enjoy - there is some GREAT material in here that you can start using IMMEDIATELY.

And by the way, if you don't recognize that guy on the far right side of the screen when they show the audience, you REALLY need to join us for some live approaches ;)


Here's part 2:


Videos taken from David Deangelo's 'Cocky Comedy'. Courtesy of YouTube.

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Copyright 2007 - Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics

A 'Scientific Approach' to Dating

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I am happy to report that we have finally answered that question of yours from high school science class about how this (insert expletive here) is going to help you in real life. Here ya go...

The Scientific Method & Dating:

1. The Problem(s):
How do I find a date?
How do I find a girlfriend or boyfriend?
How do I find a partner?
How do I find a significant other?
How do I find a husband or wife?
How do I meet new people?

2. The Hypothesis:
I'll go out to bars and clubs (why is it that most people limit themselves to these two places? think outside the box!), ask friends to introduce me to other people or get an online dating membership.

3. Materials and Methods:
Ask pre-existing friends to help you out by introducing you to other people they know. Go to local hot spots or even keep your eyes open while going through the normal menutia of everyday life (i.e. smile and say hello to people while food shopping, browsing the bookstore or waiting on line at the bank). Get an online dating account with match, jdate, chemistry or any of the other dating sites out there. Decide what you are looking for.

4. Experiment:
Go out and have conversations with people and see what happens. Write your profile, email people, and set up some first meetings. Don't be a 'keyboard jockey' that just sits around looking at profiles. Let loose and have some fun.

5. Results:
Every date is practice for the next. What did I learn from the experience? Where can I improve next time? What were the positives and negatives? Alas, this starts getting easier!

6. Conclusion:
Do you have an interest in any of these people? Where do you see things heading? If it's a go, move on to the next step. If not? Wash. Rinse. Repeat cycle.

It's great when things flow neatly like this, but as we all know life isn't always linear - it often branches into many directions forming a complex web. Try and keep things as simple as possible and it will make life a lot simpler. Happy dating!

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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