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Wednesday, June 6, 2007

Approaching Women: A Fear of Success

You guys are in for a real treat today.

I have included a link to one of the best articles I have ever come across when it comes to overcoming your fear of approaching women. Carlos Xuma, author of the Dating Black Book (as well as countless other programs), has brilliantly touched on an issue that many guys have with women - a fear of SUCCESS.

What do we mean by fear of success? Well, there are many people walking around with severe approach anxiety towards walking up to a women and starting a conversation. What are they so anxious about? Fear of rejection for one. What if she shoots me down? How will I live with myself?

But I think there are just as many guys with the opposite problem - a fear of success. These are the guys that could care less if a woman rejects them. In fact, if they come across a real weirdo that goes psycho on them (like our bullfighter chick), they actually find it quite amusing.

Guys with fear of success are worried about, you guessed it, SUCCEEDING with a woman. For them, getting shot down is the EASY way out, because if the woman is interested, they now have to actually DO something. This becomes a 'what now?' situation, and can be just as crippling as being afraid of a woman turning you down.

And then we have those guys with both a fear of rejection AND a fear of success. This is one of the worst situations a guy could find himself in, because you are essentially in a 'damned if you do, damned if you don't' scenario. Not only are these guys worried about looking foolish in front of a woman, but in the event she DOES likes him, they get all fearful about what to do next.

Carlos does an excellent job addressing these situations and give some great tips on how to work towards overcoming them. You can find the article here.

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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