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Wednesday, June 13, 2007

Dating - What to Do For Her Birthday

Alexander and Stephen,

I have been daitng a girl for six weeks and her birthday is coming up. What should i get her?

Tim from Stockton

********MY COMMENTS********

Just had this situation myself not too long ago. Actually turned out to be an EXCELLENT conversation opener when talking to other women. Just remember to be careful with the answers you get from them.

I think it’s great that you want to do the right thing with regard to her birthday. The key to successfully pulling this off is to be creative and original, WITHOUT spending a lot of money. You want to convey the message that you were thinking of her, and wanted to do something nice. How you approach this really depends on what your intentions are with this woman.

I wouldn’t worry about presents at this point - it’s WAY too early. You will score a LOT more points taking her out and doing something fun. Think back to something she said about what she likes to do (you WERE listening to her, right Skippy?) and go from there. For example, if she mentioned that she likes animals, take her to the zoo. If she likes sports (marry her!), take her to a wrestling match or a baseball game.

Either way, do something thoughtful and fun. I was once out with a woman on a first meeting and had a great time. Turned out her birthday was the next week. I ended up telling her to, "keep [Tuesday] night open, I’m taking you out." I didn't tell her where we were going (took her to the circus). Uhm, let’s just say she thanked me afterwards. Giggidy Giggidy!

Now if you see this as something that could be potentially long term, you can go to a place like Papyrus and pick her up a nice card. Write her a short message teasing her a bit about how she’s kinda cute for a dork - it will be a nice contrast to the fancy card. But whatever you do, DO NOT spill your guts about how you feel about her. And no flowers either - WAY too cliche for a birthday.

And interestingly enough, this can be a good test to see how she reacts to your gestures. If she gets whiney or complains that you didn’t spend enough money on her, you have trouble on your hands. Hey, better you find out now.

Let us know what happens...

Alexander Stone & Stephen David
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