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Friday, June 1, 2007

How to Spot a Gold Digger: Part IV of IV - How to Avoid Them

This is the fourth part of a four-part series.
Click here for:
How to Spot a Gold Digger: Part I of IV- Introduction
How to Spot a Gold Digger: Part II of IV - The Initial Meeting
How to Spot a Gold Digger: Part III of IV - The First Date and Beyond
It is inevitable that any man with an active social life is going to encounter a gold digger from time to time. However, there are a number of things you can do to reduce your odds of ending up with a selfish, superficial woman, while simultaneously INCREASING your chances of meeting the RIGHT woman. Here’s how to do it:

1. REMOVE YOUR OCCUPATION FROM YOUR ONLINE PROFILE. This was one of my biggest breakthroughs with online dating. My responses decreased, but the quality of the ones I did get SKYROCKETED. You also get points from women for not being pretentious and for having a sense of humor. If you are humorless, you can merely put down ‘gainfully employed.’ But if you want to have some fun, use one of our previous examples or be creative and come up with one of your own.

2. Also with online dating, look for the buzz words discussed in Part II and avoid those women. If one of them happens to contact you, do not respond (or call her out on it and let us know what happens!). There are PLENTY of attractive, emotionally-healthy women out there - no need wasting time on the fake ones.

3. Choose something fun, interactive and inexpensive for a first date/meeting (pool, bowling, café or pub). Gold diggers and status-conscious women HATE these types of inexpensive activities, and it will show you a LOT about who she really is as a person.

4. Go for the kiss at the end of the first date (second time out if you met her online). Read our previous article if you want a more in-depth explanation why. This will tell you what her interest in you is REAL fast.

5. Have a pre-planned, smartass answer for any gold digger questions she may throw at you. I'll get you started:

Q: What do you do?
A: (choose any of the following) Elbow model, World's tallest midget, 'You know that guy at the circus that follows the elephants? Well, I follow him.'

Q: What kind of car do you drive?
A: 1981 Chevette; or...
A: Ever see the Flintstones? (then just PAUSE and see what she does). Then smile and nod and say 'Yeah.'

Q: Do you own or rent?
A: Actually, I just crash at rich women's apartments. Are you rich?

Trust me - she’ll get the hint.

6. DON'T BUY WOMEN DRINKS! Here is one I am glad I learned at an early age. This should be rule 1 of any dating manifesto. Not only does this TURN OFF the nice women ('why does he think he has to BUY me something to talk to me?'), but this will attract the wrong women.

Now sometimes women will get cute and come up to you and say 'buy me a drink'. I never did understand this one, but it has happened to me a few times. Just chuckle and make her repeat what she said. Then say "AWESOME. I'll have a Jameson and ginger ale." If she protests and says that you are supposed to buy HER a drink, act really stupid and have her explain herself ("I don't understand, what do you mean?").

7. Finally, you need to get rid of that self-destructive mindset that this is the hottest girl you have ever been out with, and you are not going to do any better. If she is the wrong woman, she is the wrong woman. There is such an ABUNDANCE of good women out there - so there is NO reason why any guy should feel that he has to settle for anyone who doesn’t meet his standards.


Alexander Stone & Stephen David
Copyright 2007 - Online Dating Edge / Approach Dynamics


Anonymous said...

i see no problem getting someone a drink if i have the means!

Anonymous said...

Here's the deal - if you are going to buy a girl a drink, make sure it is for the purpose of buying them a drink and not for some other reason (i.e. so you can talk to them) Walking up to a girl and say 'Hi. Can I buy you a drink?' has to be about the WORST possible thing you can do. However, if you have been talking to someone for a little while and you say to them, "Hey, I am going to grab a beer. What would you like?", then that's ok. But again, make sure it is for the purpose of getting them a drink and not to try and impress them (which will actually do the opposite). And by the way, why can't she buy YOU a drink?